What To Do If Your Parent Refuses to Move

Back to Help Your Parents Decide

Decision Time

With all the information at hand, it’s time to wait for your parent’s decision.

Try to be patient and let the decision come in a timeframe your parent is comfortable with. The easiest way to bring a decision to a grinding halt is to try to rush it. Be there to answer their questions, calm fears and above all, accept whatever decision is made.

What if My Parent Refuses to Move into a Senior Living Home, but I Know it is Needed?

Even after all the time, research and conversation, your parent may still not be ready to say yes. If that’s the case, be ready to support this decision. Also, gently remind your parent of your concerns. You may want to review the signs it is time to consider senior living.

Focus on Benefits and Your Concerns

You should review the benefits to living in a retirement community. Avoid using these benefits as reasons to move. Instead focus on the benefits of living in a retirement community as relieving concerns you have with living alone. For example, having meals provided eliminates concerns you may have with your parent’s eating habits while living alone.

When talking about your concerns, let your parent know they can discuss potential challenges when they arise. Be sure your parent knows that bringing up challenges or concerns doesn’t automatically mean it’s time to move to a senior living community.

In the meantime, stay in touch with your first choice of retirement community. Get invited to special events there, and bring your parents to the activities you think will be most enjoyable. You can often have you parent visit during mealtime.

At Proctor Place, we understand this is a challenge for families. We’re here to help. We will do whatever possible to make the transition easier and enjoyable for everyone. Our doors are open. We welcome visitors to take a look around or join us for meals and activities.